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COVID-19's affects and ongoing after affects has been a very challenging time for us all. We've had to cope with organisational changes, loss of income, letting staff go, and for some, losing their jobs or businesses altogether.

In a nutshell, our emotions have been on a roller coaster ride, our businesses have endured the worst (fingers crossed), and our self-confidence has been shattered, to put it mildly. 

Our mental health is so important. Our emotional, psychological and social well–being are all reflected by our mental health. How we feel, think and act are also all influenced by our mental health. 


I'm a firm believer in “Whatever Your Mind Can Conceive and Believe, It Can Achieve.” – Napoleon Hill. In saying this though, be careful of what your mind conceives and believes. We must remember that "thoughts are things" and our minds are like filing cabinets. We don't want to be pulling out all the negative drawers and adding to them. We need to be filing positive thoughts and building on those. "Thoughts are things"and powerful things at that, when they are mixed with definiteness of purpose, persistence, and a burning desire..."- Napolean Hill

So where do we start to rebuild our self-confidence? 

The journey toward self-improvement and personal growth is one that never ends. We all start at different places, but we all have a chance at progressing and getting to where we want to be. If you can cultivate the following 11 simple habits you will increase your self confidence, become more emotionally and mentally stable, find direction and live a more productive, successful and happy life.

 

1) Repeat affirmations

If you want to increase your potential and boost your success in life, focusing on your confidence will have the most significant impact.

There is a strong correlation between self-confidence and success, so expanding how you think about yourself is an important goal.

A great habit that will help you with your self-confidence is to repeat confidence-boosting affirmations every morning.

Examples of such affirmations:   

A good place to do this is to make it a daily habit of repeating these whilst in the shower.

It may take time to get used to but it will become automatic and shower time will become positive time.

 

2) Speak up for yourself

If you’ve had self-esteem issues, you may be used to playing it cool and safe, and going with the flow.

While this may seem on the outside like it’s polite, kind, “keeping the peace” and what not, if you’re not careful you can further erode your self-esteem and self-confidence by becoming a doormat. You owe it to yourself to speak up for yourself when something is unpleasant, you’re being taken advantage of, or you have a different opinion.

Going along with the crowd is often an easier choice than standing alone, but taking a stand is an essential part of building confidence.

The next time you disagree with something, or your gut is telling you not to be swayed, speak up!

Thinking for yourself, and having confidence in your own beliefs and ideas, will help you expand as a person.

 

3) Keep learning and trying new things

One of the best confidence-boosting habits you can have is to stay sharp, think outside the box, challenge yourself and always look for new things to learn!

Being well-rounded and informed of many different topics makes you not only feel smarter, but it makes you a much more interesting person.

Think about it, who do you think is a more engaging conversationalist? Someone who only goes to work, comes home, plays video games and goes to bed? Or someone who is constantly trying new things, reading new books, starting new projects, and just having more life experience to share with you and the world?

Even if you don’t start at a baseline of being super confident, when you start to view the world as your playground and keep an active, inquisitive mind, you’ll automatically start to feel so much better about yourself.

So, if you want to boost your confidence, try something totally abnormal for you. Read a book on a topic you know nothing about. Find a podcast on a topic you never would have considered. Join a Facebook group on an issue that you have a completely different viewpoint on and learn how other people think. Try a new hobby that you don’t think you’ll be able to do well.

You’ll be more confident in no time!

 

4) Trust your gut

You have an intuition that is aligned with your specific values and beliefs. Trust that intuition, especially when it is speaking loudly.

How many times have you felt a certain way about something, gone against your hunch, then later on discovered that you were right?

Trusting yourself and taking your own advice instead of going externally for advice from others sends a signal to your brain that you are intelligent, that you’re capable, that you have wisdom and that you are enough.

That’s not to say you don’t ask others’ opinions, ever. But really… give yourself more credit. Treat yourself like you deserve to be listened to. Because you do!

 

5) Look for inspiration in others

If you are working on your confidence (or any other personal development goal), get inspired by others who have strength in this area.

Can you think of people in your life, or even in the media who exude an air of confidence that inspires you?

Inspiring books, podcasts, and seminars can provide you with new ideas and keep you motivated to continue working toward your dreams and goals.

 

6) Find a lesson in every experience

Many who struggle with confidence issues have troubled pasts. The truth is, nobody has a totally easy ride in life.

We all have issues to overcome, bumps in the road, and things that throw us off track.

The key is learning different ways to reshape and reframe your experiences to make you a stronger, better person.

We’ve all had personal struggles. We’ve all been hard on ourselves. Reframe that experience and see what you can learn from it. What has it taught you?

See the valuable lessons about life that you can share with your children or connect with others battling similar issues. Feel confident knowing that your story could be of use to someone in the world!

What in your life that has beaten you down and eroded your self-confidence, can you turn around into a good thing, that gives you strength and a sense of purpose?

If you dig deep enough, you’ll find the thing that brings you the most pain, can be the most rewarding. You just have to be willing to seek it out.

 

7. Embrace Fear

When you’re lacking confidence or faith in your abilities, life is scary. You fear rejection, you fear failure, you fear embarrassment, humiliation or any other host of negative outcomes.

By recognizing when you are afraid, you can start to manage your reaction to fear.

A trick to use for this is when you start to feel afraid, is to consider what are you really afraid and if the fear is legitimate.

Say, for example, you’ve always wanted to be a YouTuber but you’re so afraid of what people will say that you never get started. Well, what are you really afraid of? Is it people laughing at you? Is it you getting no views? Is it the technical aspect? What is this fear really grounded in, and if your fear comes true, what’s the worst that could happen? If you’re worried that you’ll get no views, what’s the worst that happens? Nobody sees it. Is that that bad? If it’s the technical aspect, so what? Can’t you practice until you figure things out?

Overcoming and even welcoming your fears will make you a much stronger person, and once you conquer your fears your self-confidence will dramatically improve. Make a daily habit of facing your fears head-on, and they’ll cease to have power over you.

 

8) Show confidence with your body language

When your body language says you are confident and assertive, others will treat you differently.

Manage your non-verbal cues to portray inner confidence, even if you are not entirely feeling so on the inside.

Every so often check your posture. Stand up straight, shoulders back, chin up. Smile. Even when you’re sitting in a chair out to dinner, at the office, even on the bus or train. Make it a practice to sit up and hold your head up high.

This is a habit that will build over time, but it makes a huge difference in how you feel and how others treat you.

Another body language habit to cultivate is giving a strong, confident handshake.

It really goes a long way at making a good first impression.

 

9) Practice resilience

When you focus on how you overcome adversity, you grow in your confidence.

Try something you’ve never done before to see how well you handle new situations or learning experiences.

What did you learn from your success or failure?

If it didn’t go so well, work toward bouncing back quickly and shrugging it off. Practicing resilience will definitely help you gain more confidence in all aspects of your life.

 

10) Make better choices

Making better decisions in your life will result in better outcomes and more confidence for you. Your choices should be based on what is important to you, your values, and your goals.

Making decisions based on these things, versus others’ needs or beliefs, will shape your life in ways that make you happy and healthy. And thus, more confident!

 

11)  Believe in yourself no matter what

Finally, consistent belief in yourself and your ability to succeed is vital to growing your self-confidence.

Let go of all doubt and insecurity and focus on how you are working to achieve your goals. Optimistic thoughts are a strong predictor of success. We all have limitations in life. Nobody’s perfect after all.

Those who have self-confidence focus more on what they do have and what they can do, rather than what they don’t and can’t.

What are you good at? What do you LOVE to do that benefits both you and those around you? Maybe you don’t feel conventionally beautiful or handsome (but I’m sure you are), but you know you’re extremely intelligent or funny.

Or maybe you’re not the best at mathematical equations, but you’re great at organization, decluttering and keeping things neat and tidy.

Whatever your superpower is, make a habit of focusing on that, and you’ll have no choice but to have self-confidence.

 

 





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